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Hello. I thought I'd contact you as there are group of girls at school who constantly keep passing comments between themselves about me. And giving me 'dirty looks'. I'm 15 and it's started to really upset me. I've spoken to teachers about it but all the girls do is deny it, and make out they're victims and start crying so it then makes it look as they are the one's having trouble. A lot of things that you could
never imagine have happened in my life the past year, especially the last 4 months, things which are really personal, but all they do is
speak about it or relate to the things which have happened knowing it will upset me. My parent are aware about everything and they
tell me everytime an incident happens to go to the teacher but nothing's really being done?

Our Advice:

Hi

I'm sorry to hear you are experiencing difficulties at school. You are absolutely doing the right thing in telling a member of staff when
this happens. If you don't feel you are being taken seriously then try speaking to a different member of staff. The most important thing
is to keep talking and telling people.

Perhaps there is someone else you can talk to and receive support from, outside of school? Perhaps a parent or another trusted adult.
They might be able to help you speak to staff at school about what is happening.

It might also help to keep a record of when these looks or comments are happening by keeping a diary or written record. That way you have specific details to pass on when you tell an adult. You and/or an adult can also take a look at your school's anti-bullying policy (they may even have a student friendly version which is easier to understand), which should tell you what your school will do if bullying
takes place.

Another suggestion would be to look into whether your school has a 'peer support' system, which enables you to be able to talk to
another student about what is happening and how you feel.

The first person you tell might not help but remember PLEASE don't stop talking to people about this and I hope you manage to get
things sorted out. No-one should be made to feel unhappy at school by others.

You Asked:

My 5 year old daughter is being bullied by a 5 year old boy he keeps hitting her pinching her and will go out his way just to hurt her..
now the school as tried to keep them apart yet he still manages to get to her.. I don't know what to do, can I move school.. who do I get in contact with etc? Please help

Our Advice:

Sorry to hear that your daughter is having problems at school.

Firstly, it is important that you keep communication going with your daughter's school and continue to let them know your concerns
that she still feels unhappy. You can ask for a copy of the school's Anti-Bullying Policy (It may also be available on their website) to make sure that they are acting in accordance with this. If you do not feel that they are responding as they should or that your concerns are not being taken seriously then you can ask for a copy of the school complaints procedure and follow this as your next step.

If you have done the above and still feel you would like to move your daughter to another school, you can find information about this
process in Leicestershire here: https://www.leicestershire.gov.uk/education-and-children/schools-colleges-and-academies/school-admissions/apply-to-move-school

Family Lives offer information, advice, guidance and support on any aspect of parenting and family life, including bullying and have a
free and confidential helpline: http://www.familylives.org.uk/how-we-can-help/confidential-helpline/

You Asked:

Someone has been telling me to go kill myself for weeks. I'm not that bothered as i am used to it now but she says vile things to me
and she still carries on.

Our Advice:

Hi - Firstly, it's not ok to be subjected to this type of behaviour, even if you do say you are not bothered by it.

You do not say whether this is happening at school or elsewhere but the most important thing is for you to speak to an adult you trust about what is going on as they should be able to help make this stop and you should never suffer alone. This might be a parent/carer or an adult at school.

It would be helpful to keep any evidence of what is happening. If it is online then you can save any messages or screenshots, if it is
verbal then you might want to keep a diary of what was said - where, when and who was involved (including any witnesses).

If you are finding it hard to talk to someone that you know, there are other people that you can contact…..

If you live in Leicestershire you can speak to your school nurse by texting them through ChatHealth.

ChatHealth working hours are Monday to Friday from 09:00am to 4:00pm ChatHealth Leicestershire t: 07520 615387. You might find
some of the information on their website helpful:https://www.healthforteens.co.uk/relationships/friendships/friendship/

Childline provides free confidential advice and support for all young people up to 19 years old. Whatever your worry, Childline
counsellors are there to help. So you could speak to them by phone, online or email 24 hours a day.www.childline.org.uk
Freephone 0800 1111

You Asked:

My best friend was hurting me and I tried to forget about it and I told a staff member of my school but now my other best friend tried
to bite me the other day and I don't know what to do.

Our Advice:

Hi – it's not ok for anyone to hurt you, emotionally or physically, so it's ok to feel upset. You might feel that you can talk to your friend
about how they have made you feel & let them know that you don't want them to treat you this way. But this might be something that you need some help with and if you think your friend might react badly then it would be best to have someone with you so that you
both feel supported. Talk to an adult that you trust, a parent/carer or member of staff at school. Perhaps your school has a peer support
scheme, whereby you could talk to someone around your own age who will be able to listen and help.

If you are finding it hard to talk to someone that you know, there are other people that you can contact…..

If you live in Leicestershire you can speak to your school nurse about friendship problems by texting them through ChatHealth.

ChatHealth working hours are Monday to Friday from 09:00am to 4:00pm ChatHealth Leicestershire t: 07520 615387. You might find
some of the information on their website helpful: https://www.healthforteens.co.uk/relationships/friendships/friendship/

Childline provides free confidential advice and support for all young people up to 19 years old. Whatever your worry, Childline counsellors are there to help. So you could speak to them by phone, online or email 24 hours a day. www.childline.org.uk Freephone 0800 1111

You Asked:

One of my friends has told me that a group of girls at school have been saying nasty things about me on Facebook. They sent me some hurtful messages and then defriended me so that I can't see what they have been saying. They now giggle & whisper when I'm
near them at school. I'm finding it really upsetting & don't know what to do. I can't tell my parents as they won't understand and will
take my mobile phone away.

Our Advice:

It sounds like this is getting you down but don't worry – there are things that you can do.
If you can't talk to your parents then talk to another trusted adult who will be able to help (perhaps a member of staff at school). They might also be able to help you to tell your parents how you are feeling.
Save the evidence by taking a screen shot of the messages – you can share these with the person that is helping you so that they can
investigate the situation.
Make sure that your settings are 'private' so that you are protecting yourself online.
Don't respond or retaliate to messages – this is very tempting but it won't help to get things sorted.
Being unkind to somebody on the internet or through technology is cyberbullying. You will find more information and advice here:
cyberbullying and here http://www.bullying.co.uk/cyberbullying/what-to-do-if-you-re-being-bullied-on-a-social-network/
Your school will have an anti-bullying policy that outlines how bullying will be dealt with and what support will be provided. You should find this on your school website and lots of schools have a student friendly version. You might want to take a look at this so you know what help you can expect.

If you have a peer support scheme at your school you might find it easier to talk to a peer mentor as a first step.

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