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You Asked:

hi i would like some advice and it is about cyber bullying and i have reported it and shown proof to my school and it has been 2 weeks since i reported it and nothing has happened and i am so tired of having to put up with bulling so if you could give me some advice that would be great.

Our Advice:

Hi, I'm sorry that things aren't any better for you.

Have you spoken to your parents/carers about what is happening? Hopefully if they know how this is affecting you they will be able to support you in speaking to someone at school about it so that school takes your concerns seriously.

I realise it is the summer holidays now so it may be a good time to have that conversation so that you are not worried about going
back in September.

If you would like to talk to someone else, you could visit the following website where you can speak to a school Nurse via text: https://www.healthforteens.co.uk/leicestershire/text-your-school-nurse/

There is also lots of other information and advice on there which might help you.

I hope things get better for you but please don't keep this to yourself.

You Asked:

i keep getting bullied by the same people and it getting to that point when i don't want to come to school and i don't know what to do
because every time i go to a teacher i feel like they don't do anything and now i don't report bulling be cause i don't think that the
school do anything and they bully me for me being myself and i don't know what will make them stop please give me some advise.

Our Advice:

Firstly, I am sorry to hear that you aren't having a great time at school. It's not okay to not want to go to school because of other
people's behaviour.

I can understand your reluctance to report bullying to staff if you feel that they are not doing anything to stop it, however if no-one
knows what is happening then it is very difficult to help make it stop.

Is there a member of staff you get on with well at school who you feel you can talk to about what is happening? You just need to find
one person who will listen and take your reports seriously – this could be a member of pastoral staff, a Teacher, a member of Support
Staff or anyone else you trust in School. Unfortunately the first person you tell might not be the person who listens and helps you so don't give up.

I also think (if you haven't done already) that you need to talk to your parents/carers about what is happening so that they can support
you and help speak to someone at school about it.

Another option might be to talk to someone closer to your own age who can help. For example, do you have a peer support system at your school or any student mentors who you feel you could talk to?

You Asked:

Hello. I thought I'd contact you as there are group of girls at school who constantly keep passing comments between themselves about me. And giving me 'dirty looks'. I'm 15 and it's started to really upset me. I've spoken to teachers about it but all the girls do is deny it, and make out they're victims and start crying so it then makes it look as they are the one's having trouble. A lot of things that you could
never imagine have happened in my life the past year, especially the last 4 months, things which are really personal, but all they do is
speak about it or relate to the things which have happened knowing it will upset me. My parent are aware about everything and they
tell me everytime an incident happens to go to the teacher but nothing's really being done?

Our Advice:

Hi

I'm sorry to hear you are experiencing difficulties at school. You are absolutely doing the right thing in telling a member of staff when
this happens. If you don't feel you are being taken seriously then try speaking to a different member of staff. The most important thing
is to keep talking and telling people.

Perhaps there is someone else you can talk to and receive support from, outside of school? Perhaps a parent or another trusted adult.
They might be able to help you speak to staff at school about what is happening.

It might also help to keep a record of when these looks or comments are happening by keeping a diary or written record. That way you have specific details to pass on when you tell an adult. You and/or an adult can also take a look at your school's anti-bullying policy (they may even have a student friendly version which is easier to understand), which should tell you what your school will do if bullying
takes place.

Another suggestion would be to look into whether your school has a 'peer support' system, which enables you to be able to talk to
another student about what is happening and how you feel.

The first person you tell might not help but remember PLEASE don't stop talking to people about this and I hope you manage to get
things sorted out. No-one should be made to feel unhappy at school by others.

You Asked:

My 5 year old daughter is being bullied by a 5 year old boy he keeps hitting her pinching her and will go out his way just to hurt her.. now the school as tried to keep them apart yet he still manages to get to her.. I don't know what to do, can I move school.. who do I get in contact with etc? Please help

Our Advice:

Sorry to hear that your daughter is having problems at school.

Firstly, it is important that you keep communication going with your daughter's school and continue to let them know your concerns that she still feels unhappy. You can ask for a copy of the school's Anti-Bullying Policy (It may also be available on their website) to make sure that they are acting in accordance with this. If you do not feel that they are responding as they should or that your concerns are not being taken seriously then you can ask for a copy of the school complaints procedure and follow this as your next step.

If you have done the above and still feel you would like to move your daughter to another school, you can find information about this process in Leicestershire here: https://www.leicestershire.gov.uk/education-and-children/schools-colleges-and-academies/school-admissions/apply-to-move-school

Family Lives offer information, advice, guidance and support on any aspect of parenting and family life, including bullying and have a free and confidential helpline: http://www.familylives.org.uk/how-we-can-help/confidential-helpline/

You Asked:

Someone has been telling me to go kill myself for weeks. I'm not that bothered as i am used to it now but she says vile things to me and she still carries on.

Our Advice:

Hi - Firstly, it's not ok to be subjected to this type of behaviour, even if you do say you are not bothered by it.

You do not say whether this is happening at school or elsewhere but the most important thing is for you to speak to an adult you trust about what is going on as they should be able to help make this stop and you should never suffer alone. This might be a parent/carer or an adult at school.

It would be helpful to keep any evidence of what is happening. If it is online then you can save any messages or screenshots, if it is verbal then you might want to keep a diary of what was said - where, when and who was involved (including any witnesses).

If you are finding it hard to talk to someone that you know, there are other people that you can contact…..

If you live in Leicestershire you can speak to your school nurse by texting them through ChatHealth.

ChatHealth working hours are Monday to Friday from 09:00am to 4:00pm ChatHealth Leicestershire t: 07520 615387. You might find some of the information on their website helpful:https://www.healthforteens.co.uk/relationships/friendships/friendship/

Childline provides free confidential advice and support for all young people up to 19 years old. Whatever your worry, Childline counsellors are there to help. So you could speak to them by phone, online or email 24 hours a day.www.childline.org.uk Freephone 0800 1111

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