if you are being bullied

• Don't blame yourself for what is happening.
• Look at them and tell them to STOP
• Get away as quickly as you can.
• Speak out!
• Keep on speaking until someone listens.

Keeping quiet helps bullies

• Remember it's your not fault and there are people who can help you.
• Tell a member of staff.
• Tell your family
• If you are scared, ask a friend to go with you.
• Keep on speaking until someone listens.

Keeping quiet gives the bullies power
But you can take that power away, just by talking

Online Bullying Advice

e-mail advice

• do not open a message from any name that you do not recognise
• tell an adult if you keep getting messages from names that you do not recognise
• if the sender is known to you and has sent messages that have upset you in the past - ignore any new messages but tell an adult about it
• do not share your e-mail with anybody other than those you know very well and can trust
• choose a username for chat rooms that do not show if you are a boy or a girl
• if you are not comfortable or happy with messages that you read in a chat room - do not enter / leave the chat room
• do not give personal information - address, telephone, your school or your real name
• do not send your picture to anyone that you do not know very well
• it can be dangerous to meet anyone that you do not know

If you really want to then make sure:

1. you take a parent with you or other adult that you trust
2. you arrange to meet in a public place
3. you tell your parents/ carers:
   • where you are going
   • who with
   • who you are meeting (making sure that they know thet you have first met this person on the Internet)

Nobody wants to stop you making new friends, however, all of those that know you and that care about you want to protect you so always REMEMBER:

You can never be really sure exactly who are are chatting with on the Internet!!!
BE RESPONSIBLE - STAY SAFE!

Mobile phone advice

To keep safe - follow these guidelines:

• do not give your mobile number to anybody other than those you know very well and can trust
• if you receive unwanted messages then tell someone else about it - a teacher, parent, or a School Buddy if your school has them
• mobiles can now be bought fairly cheaply - if you get nasty messages, it may be an option to get another phone rather than continue to use one that can cause distress
• don't reply to any nasty messages
• try to keep all of the messages in your phone - THEY CAN BE USED AS EVIDENCE - if you can't then note the dates and times and content of text messages
• inform the Police - first you may want to talk to others you know you can rely on for support. Think about whether you want to talk to a member of your family or a teacher first? These and many more adults will be there to offer help for you to approach the Police
• when you do notify the Police - make sure you have a written record of dates, times and content of messages, especially if you have not been able to store the messages on your phone

tell someone - they will be able to help!

talking to somebody at school

If you talk to a member of staff, they will:

• Listen to you.
• Take you seriously.
• Give you advice.
• Take action to make sure that you are SAFE.
• Take action to end the bullying.
• Check that the bullying does not start again.

What Organisations Can Help?

Click on any of these organisations. They all have lots of advice and many have a HELPLINE if you need somebody to talk to.

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helplines at a glance

childline - 0800 1111

NSPCC - 0808 800 5000

Useful Books

Dew, M. (2202) Help: I'm Being Bullied: A Guide for 9-13 Year Olds (Bloozoo Publishing)

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